I always thought when I was younger how great it would be to just stay at home forever living off of my parents, getting an allowance and all that and doing whatever I wanted without having to worry about bills, food , or any other expenses. Of course, as I get older, that doesn't sound as appealing. Granted I'd still love to lounge around all day and mooch off of my parents as long as possible, but only if it was like off of a large inheritance or something. Just as long as they aren't directly in the picture.
When it comes to difficult, my parents definitely top my list. And I know it's kind of cliché, "oh, a teenager bitching about her parents, how original"; but honestly they're our biggest problem in life for the most part. Since we live with them, we have no exterior expenses to worry about, and we’re set on living conditions. School, homework, sports, friends is all I really have that could be causing me problems or stress, but all of that I can handle on my own just fine. My parents, however, are another issue. They stress me out WAY more than any assignment ever could. I tend to like to handle my schoolwork on my own, and I think I do a pretty damn good job of staying organized and on top of things. It’s only when my parents try to get involved that we have a problem.
Thankfully, for the most part they leave things alone. It’s only when they see a “B” on the report card that they start nagging me about getting on my work in that class and want to “make sure I’m handling things”. It’s utterly ridiculous how quickly my parents can jump into action and start interrogating me on how every little quiz in that class went and asking me about homework in that class every day. Honestly, if you’re going to do that then the assignment book was a waste of money. Multiple times my parents have tried to suggest a tutor for me (like I have time for that) or tell me I should skip my first period class the next day so that I can stay up and study for physics after hockey practice, which is something I’d never be allowed to do for something like Japanese. Like seriously, mom and dad, I’ve got it.
When’s it’s not school they’re bothering me with, it’s just them. They’re personality, cluelessness, and annoying ass quirks they possess. It's kind of unbelievable how two people can encompass all of my pet peeves without fail. And for some reason, coming from them makes it all the more annoying. Making noises while you eat is inherently annoying on its own, but when my dad does it, I can’t take it; it’s incredibly difficult to resist the urge to slap him. Normally I’m fine with people playing the piano, but when it’s my mom pounding away at 8 in the morning on my day to sleep in, that crosses the line. Personal boundaries are also a concept that for some reason eludes my parents. They don’t understand why how trying to go on my Facebook and friend themselves when I’ve already rejected they’re friend request like five times crosses a line. No, mom, it’s not okay to put my dog on my bed with me and take pictures of the two of us while I’m asleep. I’m sure it makes cute pictures for your scrapbook, but it’s still UNACCEPTABLE. Sometimes I think they intentionally try to piss me off. I mean, how in the world can someone act like that all the damn time?
Someday I’ll get over this, I know. I’ll realize that I was also a pain to live with and will be grateful to my parents for not putting me on the streets. I’m sure I’ll reach a point where I look back on my life with my parents fondly.
It'll be a while, though.
Hmm, have you tried to talk to a counselor about this? May I recommend the eminent Mr. Radnitzer?
ReplyDelete... Joking aside, this is a wonderful post. I can relate to it well, and especially when you divulge personal examples. My parents annoy me a lot, but I wouldn't be the person I am today without them. It's always hard to appreciate things that are so close to us, but that does not make them any less valuable.
I like your tone in this piece, it's conversational and humorous. Definitely looking forward to more!
Although I have no clue who you are or what your parents are like, I'm sure sure your problems will be over once you move out. I have a sister who went to college and the only time she lived at home was during the summer-and that was only for two years. During her junior year of college she moved into an apartment and never had to live at home again. Now she lives in New York and visits a lot, but she never stays for more than two weeks. Her relationship with my parents is way better than it ever was when she lived with them.
ReplyDeleteSome family members just get along better when they aren't all up in each others' business. I feel similarly about some members of my family. You don't need to defend your irritation with your parents. I appreciate your honesty. And the story about how your mom takes pictures of you and your dog is hilarious. I'm looking forward to your next post!
Personally, I do enjoy Mr. R quite a bit, but that might be because I don't have to live with him.
ReplyDeleteAll liking of the Radnitzer family aside, this was a wonderful post which made chuckle the entire time. Never stop writing!
Haha.
ReplyDeleteI didn't even have to make it past the second sentence before I figured out who was writing.
I laughed. Out loud.
I must say, however, that spending this year away from my family and with my grandparents has been hard. I guess you don't realize how much you love your family until they're gone, YEAH I know it's a cliche... but it's really true.
I'm sick today and that's always when I miss my family the most. My dad used to make me soup and "educate" me about music via his record collection. It seems cheesy until you live with your grandparents who aren't even aware that you're sick because they've got their own agendas... Yoga and walking the dog tend to be of the highest priorities in their household.
Anyway, that's of very little importance... I sincerely enjoyed reading this post and laughed the entire time.
Good work!
I like your honesty and insistence on the ligitimacy of your argument...because I think we all know how feel at times :)
ReplyDeleteIt's a really creative post because I do not think many of us would be brave enough to just say "Yes, all these adolescent frustrations are completely true, here's why..."
Great idea!
Great details. Very funny. The picture-of-you-and-dog-while-sleeping was particularly humorous. (Though I can understand why it would drive you crazy :) I concur with the comments above: When you move out, things will be much better between you and your parents, and you may even find yourself missing them sometimes.
ReplyDeleteWatch out for they're/their confusion. But aside from little details like that, great blog so far. Keep up the good work.
One of the most frustrating things with Uni parents is how they bother their kids about school. It's really annoying how you can do everything in your capacity to get an A, and if you get a B, they're not happy. There's only a certain amount that you can do, and it would be nice if they're more appreciative of the effort that you're putting in, instead of nagging you about what you haven't accomplished.
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